- Do I feel inspired and energized after interacting with this person or discouraged and deflated?
- Is there a reasonable balance of give and take in my relationship with them or do they demand much more from me than they give back?
- Do they help me see new possibilities for my situation or do they merely help me see how every solution I think of won’t work?
And finally since social support networks are healthiest when there is give and take on both sides, take a little time to answer those questions posed above about yourself.Do you encourage, inspire, and energize the people in your network? Do you give back to those people in balance with what you ask of them? Do you help them with constructive problem solving when asked rather than negatively shooting down every idea? If you fall short when you assess yourself with these questions, you might want to think of ways you can become more supportive to that person—in the end, it will keep your network healthy and strong!